In a society where keeping up with the Jones is no longer a metaphor, it’s easy to forget the importance of real connects. Creating moments is about creating memories with the people you love. It’s about creating, building, and strengthening relationships. Yes, you can buy the new “IT” shoe or phone, but if you have no one to share it with that item loses its value. However, when you go on a trip with families and friends you always have those stories, those memories, and those moments. As parents, we should teach our children to place more value in time with people and not so much on material possessions.
As an adult, I can still remember my dad, and I installed a ceiling fan at my grandma’s house. I cherish memories like those. Although my father passed away back in 2000, I have a brain full of special memories I can call on at any time. On the other hand, I can’t remember one thing that he or my mom bought me for Christmas or a birthday. I’m sure there was plenty, but the memories are what is special not the things. I’ll give you an example. Do you remember the first time you got a gift you wanted? How did that make you feel? Who gave it to you? How did you thank them? Where is that gift now? See it’s the moment that was special not the gift.
Create the Memories
As a mother of two, I am always trying to find ways to build memories with my boys. I have concluded that I don’t need to spend a lot of money to create these memories. And I always find fun inexpensive and even free things for use to do. I know that I won’t live to forgive, but they will have memories of me that will last at least for their lifetime. One of our special times is movie night Friday’s with marshmallow popcorn. We eat marshmallow cover popcorn and watch a movie on Netflix. They often answer is it Friday yet, and they brag to their friend at school about our movie nights. How can you create fun memories for your family?
Where Is the Value
Many times, there is not only is there less emotional value in collecting stuff, but there is usually financial less as well. Most things today are made to break or replaced. There is always the next newer version of that product coming soon. More likely if you invested that money in a retirement plan, you would have a nice nest egg at retirement time.
You Can Buy It
I am not saying don’t buy stuff. I’m saying ask yourself first if this item is adding value to your life. Asking yourself these three questions before you buy things will help you decide if you want to make that purchase.
- Did does purchase helps me create memories?
- How likely am I to replace this item in 12 months?
- Can I afford to purchase this item without needing this money later?
One More Thing
Just remember one day when your old and gray the things you will want to be surrounded by is a family that loves you, and pictures of all your fun moments. Not things that have no value to you and things you can’t take with you. Collect actual value in life and have memorable moments. Children learn a lot by example, so if you do this with them, they will do this with their kids as well. Your family legacy will be one of love filled memories and financial prosperity.